You don’t have to adopt traditional gender roles in sex unless you want to. Try on one or a few that might work for you, communicate them to your partners (especially new ones), and ask them how they like their bodies to be talked about or touched. The first step to this can be feeling good about the terms we use for our body parts. One of the main goals of sex for many of us is to feel good in our bodies. Body parts, especially private body parts, can be complicated territory for LGBTQ folks, and understandably so. or Girl Sex 101 (much more gender-spectrum-inclusive than the title suggests) are both great resources that can get some of your questions answered. Sometimes we don’t even know where to start if we’re not sure about what our options even are. This is when you can think about experimenting with sex toys, whether you're interested in penetration, and what kind of touch feels good to you. This check-in can help you determine what you want from sex and what queer sex means to you.
